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Published on Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Ross Romeo and CORES: About Helping Mates and Eliminating Suicide

"Going along to the CORES session didn’t bring my mate back, nor did it take away the pain of his loss, but it did answer some of my questions".

CORES is a not-for-profit, non-government community organisation. Our charter is suicide prevention with our one day suicide intervention training at the heart of the program. CORES first started in Sheffield Tasmania in 2003; there are now total of 27 programs operating around Australia.

 

CORES operates from the ground up. It draws on the fact that everyone is capable of saving a life. We teach people what to look for, where to go and who to ask for help. The people we train are not there to solve people’s problems, they are there to recognise when a friend is doing it tough and help them get to people who can assist them.

 

My journey to CORES is a very personal one. I first got involved in the organisation when I attended one the one day training sessions in 2008.  I had just lost my best mate to suicide and was looking for answers.  Leading up to his death I knew something was wrong but I didn’t realise how much he was suffering. Going along to the CORES session didn’t bring my mate back, nor did it take away the pain of his loss, but it did answer some of my questions.  The training gave me a lot more than just words; I now had something real I could use. Since I joined CORES, we have trained more than 5000 people from all walks of life from all over Australia with more than 1300 recorded interventions. That says it all for me.

 

Life’s stressors and struggles put us under pressure. There is no greater example right now than our mates in the cattle industry. Problems start with how we are feeling and they snowball from there. When travelling well emotionally, we usually make the right decisions. However if our emotional well being is suffering, it doesn’t allow us the freedom to make good decisions. Usually our first reaction when we are put under pressure is to stop doing whatever it is we do to cope and relax. Strange but true.  We use excuses like “I haven’t got time to have a beer with my mates”, or “I haven’t got time to run around with the kids” and “I haven’t got time to meet the ladies for coffee” …sound familiar?

 

When someone is in this frame of mind life can seem very lonely. They can’t see that they are in need of a hand even if the people around them can see it. The key is that there is someone around who does notice. Even though this person may have the greatest family and friends around them, many times they need to speak with someone who is not part of their immediate situation.

 

If you’re interested in gaining some skills which may one day help your mate, your son or daughter, wife or husband, mum or dad, get in touch with CORES here.  We run a number of one day programs in across Australia.  In the meantime, here are a few tips to help you stay on track :

1. When you notice something is not right with someone, take the time to them if he/she is ok.   

2. There are many great services available use them.  You may have to help your mate access these services.

3. Self care is essential. Take the time to do the things you enjoy doing.

4. Physical activity is a great way of improving our moods. Something as simple as a walk with our partner can change our day.

5. Help out your mates. It’s been proven many times over that doing something nice for someone else makes us feel good about ourselves.

 

Cheers

Ross Romeo (Dip. Prof. Couns)

 

CORES Australia Qld Co-ordinator

0427 455 313

Email: coresqld@kentishrc.com.au

Face Book: CORESQueensland  (https://www.facebook.com/#!/pages/CORES-Queensland/212398055556986)

Website: www.cores.org.au  

 

Here are some other services and organisations you may turn to if you need help today:

Beyondblue.org.au

Lifeline.org.au or 13 11 14

Mindhealthconnect.org.au

Headspace.org.au

 

 

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